How does the business owner handle public success after achieving their goals of growth and prosperity? This episode explores how the public eye of business success has a lot in common with celebrities, that is, ultimately dealing with fame. Then follows on how to cope with the dangers when others exalt you on a pedestal of public glory. Co-host Tegan Weaver shares what she learned in her “Personal Growth and Fame Mindset” class at her university last semester and Scott applies that to business and family life.
- Stress – feeling that something should Not be happening, external pressure
- Anxiety – feeling that something should Be happening, internal pressure
Pendulum of Fame
- Like a pendulum, there is always tension between Entitlement and Shame. Having emotional swings between the two is okay. Personal problems happen when the pendulum stops swinging and a person gets stuck at the extremes.
- This approach comes from Christi Williams-Gilbert, Tegan’s professor. Christi is an entertainment life-coach and Adjunct Professor. Her Twitter handle is: @ShadingLimelite
Self-Conscious Hypothesis of Fame
- Fishbowl: Other people are aware of you, then you become aware of you and they know that. Feeling self-conscious can change your behavior and engage in people pleasing.
- Your success becomes an entrance into an exclusive club, leaving some friends and family behind. You become self-conscious of only pleasing the people in the smaller club.
Reference source: “The Psychological Consequences of Fame: Three Tests of the Self-Consciousness Hypothesis” by Mark Schaller, Journal of Personality 65:2 June 1997
- Embrace it, but keep things in check.
- Being in the public eye is a by product of doing things right and having good habits.
- Take actions to reduce the discrepancy between your real self and the ideal self that others tell you.
- Take down-time or have positive escape activities.
- Keep your spouse in the loop, business success leads to shifting relationships dynamics. Talk thing over and make a plan.
- Fame quote from “The Psychological Consequences of Fame: Three Tests of the Self-Consciousness Hypothesis”, which quotes Leo Braudy “The frenzy of renown” New York: Oxford University Press 1986
- Proverbs 22:29 — “Do you see a man skillful in his work? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before obscure men.” ESV